Today made me reflect on life and time. I’ve been using this blog to reflect on my life and figure out my future and to work for the things that I want. And while all of that is important, and what we are essentially programmed to do with our lives – grow up, pursue our dreams, plan for a future – I was reminded today that as complex as life is, one thing that should be most important is to just live each day with gratitude. Take it day by day and spend time with friends and family. Tell the people you love that you love them. Let people you care about know that you care. Even if you’ve had a falling out with someone you once cared for, because chances are you still care.
Time is not a guaranteed part of life. I think we get so caught up in the promise of a future that we forget about the present. We push people away because we think they don’t have a place in our futures, and while yes it’s good to detoxify our lives of certain people, we also mistreat some of the people we care about most in order to try and get to wherever we are heading. We are an egocentric society, but will enjoy and appreciate life so much more if we learn to break down those ideals.
As humans, one of our biggest faults is not realizing what we have/had until we lose it. Why would we NOT take the time to appreciate the people and the things that matter while we do have them? Why does it take losing something to realize it’s value?
Not everyone has the same length of life guaranteed. No one likes to think that maybe one day we won’t even live past the age of 25. No one really believes they won’t live to see the day they get married. Have kids. Get the promotion of their dreams. But the sad reality is that not everyone gets to live out that future. And we don’t know when our time is up. We all know it’s inevitable but we hope that when it’s our turn we’ll have accomplished everything we wanted to do. So lets learn to not take advantage of the time we are gifted with. It’s okay to want to plan 5 steps ahead, but don’t forget about the steps we’re taking right now.
The simple touch of another person’s hug or hand holding. Hearing someone’s voice. Seeing someone’s smile. Laughing with your best friends. Seeing the sun set. Walking in the sand barefoot. Hearing a new song. Seeing a rainbow. Smelling the rain. Holding your pet. Reading a book by the pool. Hitting all green lights on the way to work. Finding $5 in an old pair of pants. Smelling your best friends perfume/cologne. These are all examples of some of the simple things in life that we sometimes forget matter. And the things we take for granted because we forget to realize how blessed we are to be able to experience these things with loved ones. I admit that I’m guilty of forgetting to just enjoy the little things. This journey has been opening my eyes to so much more than myself. We not only take things for granted, we also take people for granted because we forget to realize nothing is permanent. Be gentle and kind with peoples feelings and hearts, what if you were the last one to handle a person’s heart?
So in this fast paced world, focused on climbing to the top, let’s slow down and appreciate the view from whatever level of life you’re on. Take the time to stop and smell the roses. Spend a little more time with friends and family. Remind the people that have made positive impacts in your life, that they matter to you. Be caring, kind, compassionate, and grateful.
I hate making this post sad, but unfortunately it takes really sad and tragic events to remind us that we are all human. We are not immortal or invincible. We forget to value the things that really matter in life. So while it’s good to work hard and never give up on your dreams and ambitions, don’t forget to give yourself a break and remember that life is more valuable than just becoming successful or owning material things or looking a certain way. Life is a hell of a lot more valuable than all those things. Don’t wait to appreciate what you have until it’s gone.
This post is dedicated to every person who didn’t get a chance to see their dreams and ambitions come to fruition. As well as to all the people who still have time to live out and pursue your dreams and appreciate the gift of life. It’s never too late to practice gratitude in our lives and be thankful for what we have before it’s too late.